Handwritten Letter
“…it feels like how love should be - floating through a dark blue sky.
Happiness isn’t happiness without a violin playing goat.”
- Julia Roberts as Anna Scott in Notting Hill
You talk about love as if you’ve figured it all out. There are moments when you sound like your on the verge of a breakthrough in your rigorous, scientific endeavor of codifying the act of falling-in-love. Here are some of the highlights in your grand unified theory:
- Never go into a relationship when you’re still broken from a previous one.
- You have to love yourself the most.
- A relationship only works when the both of you are able to grow individually.
I am not trying to poke holes in your opinion. I just want to take part in the discourse. So here are my points:
- I agree with you to the extent that you shouldn’t rely on another person to define who you are. But the danger in this is that you’ll just keep on waiting and waiting and waiting. Sometimes, you just have to go with your gut feel and take the leap. I think that the healing process culminates when you open yourself up again to another person. Whatever doubts you might be feeling are healthy. It only means you care enough not to want things to get fucked up.
- You should love yourself. But the thing about being in a relationship is that giving to the other is the most satisfying thing in the world.
- I totally agree. But love is also about sacrifice. Look at Jesus.
I suppose what I’m trying to tell you is that for every conclusion you come up, there will always be an exception. Love isn’t about the rules, it’s about finding that person that throws all what you know out the door. You should never be afraid of the feeling of losing control. That’s why you should trust the other person enough to let you get out of control and go too far.
No matter what you do, you’ll never make sense of it all. Love is a violin-playing goat. It will never make all that much sense. So go do something stupid. Take a leap of faith and believe in the improbable. Love isn’t about thinking, it’s about feeling and knowing.
So don’t be a cynic, Blu.
